One of the universal languages in endurance sports is that of “the dark place.” It’s where the human mind goes when you’ve experienced so much depletion that the governors of pretense retire, and you’re left with just the raw material of the self again. You meet you.
I feel like I lived in that space before I ever picked up a bike. My childhood was destructive (if you’re new here, see My Mother’s Shadow Sister) and I was powerless over it, despite having the gift of so much inherent awareness that allowed me to resist it. I turned inward to keep myself safe because, I’ve said it before, I trusted me. I saw through it then, and that vision cuts sharply now still. This past weekend, I saw something so acutely in myself that I’m afraid of the potential limitations it places on my future efforts in ultra-cycling. I already have so many barriers that I’m chipping away at- learned hyper-independence, a very fragmented support network, housing insecurity, frequent and unpredictable mechanical problems with the old van I have lived in off-and-on for almost six years, and most recently, exiting an unhealthy relationship that struck all of my old wounds like a drum.
I sorta kinda knew better than to throw myself at the 340-mile Central Missouri Circuit last minute. It was a race that I was ecstatic to see appear for the first time but when crunch time came around, I just didn’t think I had it together enough to take it on. I had been fairly isolated living in a rural town reliant on someone else for my security, and moved back into the van and started a new job only six weeks before race day. I was very disorganized. My phone was destroyed by water and I got locked out of all of my vital accounts and couldn’t contact anyone for a few days, I got a police knock at a campground for no discernable reason, my van started to threaten a mechanical days before the race, I’d already been struggling with some other interpersonal stuff, and I just… I knew how much weight all of it was even though I was practiced at carrying it.
Oh, but to be passionate about something. To love it severely. You let the dream take the wheel instead of reason. And let me clear, I don’t regret that. My heart won’t let me sit things out and my best friend, Gerrod, reminded me of that to wake me up, and so I registered three days before the deadline. Multiple climbing-heavy and rugged 200’s, point-to-point solo rides with 100+miler-per-day averages for days on end, and a hyper-fixation for covering ground that deepens as the fatigue builds; I thought this was a fair step up.
On event morning, I found myself in the middle of a lively group of women with some hardcore histories. In a sport where I’ve found myself a general outsider with a tendency to hang on the fringes, this was a serious marker for how much I had evolved in a short period of time. It set me up well as the anticipation of the start bubbled up, and made the grand depart taste sweet.
As a rider with road power, I found myself at the front of the women’s field early and briefly rode with Nichole Baker, a newcomer to bikepack racing but no stranger to big efforts. My computer soon spontaneously changed the route map to running in reverse, and I had to stop briefly to reset it. I caught Nichole again and she said, warmly “I have a feeling we’re going to be seeing a lot of each other today.”
One day she’ll know how much I needed that. The unfortunate part is she disappeared as we hit swampy singletrack early into the race, and I never saw her again. Major congratulations on your win, by the way. It would have been an honor to have chased you further.
Let’s jump forward because recapping all of the mundane details of a race I didn’t finish isn’t actually why I’m here. At mile 114, I hit the second store stop on the route and made that a long break before I had to face the onset of night. Last summer, I took on another ultra race where the combination of invisible dogs, trespassing, too much hiking, and wrong turns ganged up on my inexperience and had me retiring at 1:00 a.m. Jamie Wilgur, eventual third-place finisher, had come up behind about 10-minutes later and I asked “would you mind if I sat back and rode with you for a while? I don’t handle the dark that well.” She obliged and let me know she likely wouldn’t talk that much.
We ended up sharing quite a lot of back-and-forth that night, and that’s what kept me afloat. At that store stop, I realized my power bank was not charging my computer. It was at 45% with only 47-miles to go to the next stop where I’d have access to more solutions, so I rolled on. Not too long after we got a good rhythm going, I hit a pothole hard and the stitches on my feed bag straps broke in two places. I had to stop and haphazardly tie it up to my seat bag where it rubbed my tire with every pedal stroke. Obnoxious, but hardly a problem. As the last of the light left us, we entered the creek bottoms where I began to feel a chill. I knew the temperature was to drop overnight, so I had packed a thermal base-layer, neoprene gloves, and thick wool socks. Jamie stopped to pull on her jacket and I made my swap while she graciously waited for me. It was there that I observed the charge on my headlight, only on for about an hour, was already low. I didn’t know what the life on my headlamp was if I had to rely on it exclusively. My computer battery was also struggling now that both my navigation and backlight were running. I had to turn both off and became extra dependent on Jamie to lead me to St. James. I also realized that my bottle cage bolts were backing out for the second time that day, and one had already jumped ship. Nothing was melting down, but in my mind I was already running a bunch of programs on how I would handle it if any of those things failed and I were to end up alone.
Dear reader, I have historically been a manic problem-solver. I grew up in a household where I was frequently left to fend for myself, shamed for needing help, and if I did accept help, the result was under someone else’s control. To minimize the consequences, I had to start predicting the result of hangups before they ever happened. My imagination for being stuck was and still is vivid, because if I can imagine it, I can survive it.
And so now, cold, necessary devices low on power, my feet wet and frigid from a deep creek crossing mere minutes after changing into warm, dry socks, and my bottles threatening to abort the mission, I’m moving forward but trying to stave off the stress that is a permanent resident for me regardless of how minor the problems may seem on the surface. That stress doesn’t keep me from showing up, but it does keep me from enjoying the adventure the way others do on things this epic. Adventure means unpredictability, and unpredictability to the survivor of long-term trauma means I am not safe.
Nine miles to St. James. Everything is hanging on and I realize I’m in the clear, but I am cold. That combination meant I would not be pushing on through the dark with Jamie after another stop. I trialed a new charging cable for my power bank which solved that problem, and then asked a hotel if I could sit in their lobby for just a few hours to let my devices charge and to warm up. I pulled out a foil blanket to knock off the clammy chill, and fought off the drowsiness that quickly set in after I sat down.
It was too long to sit with my thoughts. At 4:00 a.m. I was in a bitter arguement with myself about just getting back out there and hitting the road hard until the sun came up. I was frozen in that state until dawn touched the trees at 5:30. I was losing a lot of ground to others who had gotten to sleep and started early again, and those who hadn’t stopped yet at all. I was even more wide-eyed and indecisive as the compounding feelings of vulnerability, being underequipped, sleep-deprived, and inadequate had a row with each other like it was an open bar. I was losing. I was failing. I was not safe.
Adversity is the expectation at events like this, not just a possibility. Calling for help from the outside means disqualification, and calling for help hasn’t even been an option for me at significant points in my story. I have incorrectly thought twice now that I would be well-adapted to that since it had been the theme of my entire life and I’ve always just sloppily bulldozed through it even with the stress and the pressure always quietly (or sometimes not so quietly) gnawing at the inside of my throat.
But it catches you, an incredible, ghostly rider in its own right. It does not bargain with you. It does not compromise. If you don’t respect it, if you fight back, you lose. You fail. You are not safe.
Crying, I sent a text to my emergency contact to let him know that I was planning to push on but that the possibility was high that I would need to be extracted. I left town at Mach 5 to warm the engine back up, but also to try to foolishly use force again to bypass the alarms that had already been tripped. What I didn’t realize until after I started writing this passage is that, even though I had gotten through my hangup successfully and there was nothing but the chill to ride out now, I had already been shaken. I had already imagined losing, failure, and not being safe. I had not, and I was not, but my body was already signing off without my permission.
I have experienced this on the bike a number of times prior in various contexts- the high-heartrate crying and hyperventilation that comes when I no longer have control. I am not a person that cries easily. I move with composure and vocalize emotion in a clinical way most of the time, which is why I have such a propensity for writing about it. Something about the bike takes that away from me. I process so much in that space, but when the wound gets struck, I am absolutely, unmanageably, not at the fucking wheel anymore.
I so wanted to break through it this time so I stopped to recover at three different points. I missed a turn which set me back again. I slid my back wheel out correcting the mistake and it hit me once more. I shivered my way up a minor climb as my body entered full shut down, where despite having so much physical ability to give yet, everything just said “no.”
Now at mile 177, I hadn’t yet made the call to stop when my emergency line texted me back saying he was headed to my location. I didn’t argue. I knelt over my bars and collapsed completely, knowing that force, now, would only extenuate the damage. It would no longer get me safely home.
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I don’t know how to solve this. I can’t write, or ride, my way out. Time has done a lot of heavy lifting since that first experience back in 2016 on a cyclocross course, but it still feels like a gargoyle barring me out of what I could accomplish if everything just went right. That reality doesn’t exist.
But I also have to remember, that of course I experience that stress and its consequential overload. You don’t survive a volatile, unpredictable, and unsafe childhood without maladaptive protective mechanisms, and they don’t disappear or rewrite themselves just because you no longer need them. That’s the capital message that I want more people to understand about those of us with severe trauma, whose responses to life aren’t always congruent with what might be happening on the ground. I am lucky that mine still allow me to take on extreme trials like ultra races even if they fairly consistently break my heart. Some can never reach outside their invisible iron prisons.
For now, I am stepping out of racing temporarily to pick this apart. I can’t keep allowing my goals to be short-changed by it and a repeated cycle to continue to crash my confidence. Trans-Am is a mega-version of what I just tried and lost, and it’s probably a blessing in disguise that I am now seeing the deeper impact from the past that I wasn’t fully aware of. For so long I just thought I lacked a little bit of mental grit, but no.
It’s just dark down here.
I will the machine. 