I will the machine.

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  • Cathedral Nouveau

    “Cathedral Nouveau,” 2023, cropped. Watercolor and ink on paper.

    Just before dawn, an owl flew right up to the towering pane of stained glass and scraped the soldering with its talons. It crashed into the pane again and again, whilst the glow from behind the opaque window set fire to the bird’s eyes. As its shrill echoed off of great stone walls, the patron saints below watched the tired owl perch on the ledge and wondered,

    Why does a creature of the night

    slam up against the light?

    And as the saints crossed the threshold, past the doors of mahogany and iron, the owl descended. She tore the gold tassels from a banner, and tied them around her neck in a delicate knot. She cracked her beak into the wooden barriers, as if to knock them down.

    When the doors opened, she looked up at the man in the white robe and gold tassels with those burning eyes. The saint paused for a moment, then reached into his satchel. He leaned down, biscuit in hand, gently offered the bird reprieve for her strange arrival, and returned to the nave with the doors closed firmly behind him.

    The owl hurled herself into the air, those metallic strands loosening as she traced the perimeter of the cathedral. She scanned the structure from all sides, observing it like liturgy she could either bury herself in or burn. The tassels released themselves from her plumage and were tossed away in the cool air as first light broke, and her molten watch met the wrought iron cage of the aviary.

    A falcon, adorned with a leather harness and a capsule for a scroll, perched inside the dome with icy eyes fixed on the owl as she circled. The owl landed at the foot of the door to the aviary and knocked her beak into the gateway once again.

    A bird handler opened the door and watched silently as the owl walked herself past her feet, through the vestibule, beneath the falcon’s perch,

    and found herself an inkwell.

    _____

    Today, I was about to submit my application to the University of Missouri as a first-time, first-generation student. I wrote a free choice mini essay fully confident that option was my ticket, just to reach the ‘submit’ button with an error essentially telling me, “You still don’t fit into any of our boxes.“

    You’ll have to try another way.

    Without rattling off the growing list of systemic barriers I have encountered trying to reach higher education, under survival conditions and finally not, I am unaccepting of being disallowed access to opportunity that the outside world insists on repeat I belong in.

    For the first time, I’ll agree with you openly.

    And for that reason, I have to play the game this time, but once I’m in through the side door, I’m going to highlight every crack I fell through that people with less of a vengeance might just submit to, and challenge them.

    Of course I don’t jive with boxes- I’ve been sharpened.

    And so, since my little admissions essay has been rendered obsolete, yet remains relevant to future posts I still have living in my drafts, here is a piece of The Microcosm.

    _____

    “Please see me as who I am, and not who you think I am.”  

    I mixed another three parts paint, one part mineral spirits in my cup and continued painting the bands of malachite over my old van. I ignored the drips of ultramarine on my running boards as I covered the grey that was singed with rising rust. My hands did not stop buzzing for minutes after grinding the rot away from behind my taillight lenses, and the 1985 small block Chevy looked ready for the scrap yard with the grill removed in preparation to be sprayed black.   

    Over the 68 hours inside of two weeks it took me to paint a classic, I remembered my nights parking on the streets of Louisville years before. Neighbors would call the police periodically, and I’d answer that dreaded knock on my side doors with a contained “Good evening, officer.” And I recall that each time, there was a micro pause before they spoke, and a softening in their posture as they looked at me and my warmly decorated interior. The dark air would move from enforcement to, “What’s the story here?”  

    I taped a handwritten sign to my windshield when I was out in public during the transformation process that read,  

    “Sorry for my mess. I’m going to be a mural.”  

    To an audience of one.  

    When I was finally finished, with likely one of the most unmistakable vehicles on this side of the New Madrid faultline, my own presence changed. Where I once kept my head down walking into the grocery store, I now turned back occasionally to admire my labor and sometimes noticed another taking a look from across the parking lot.   

    And sometimes still, they take two and they say,

    “Hold on. I have to meet this person.”

  • The Thoroughbred

    The spirit of I will the machine was fundamentally in conflict with my years riding horses. I was directing the autonomy of something else.

    Then, the bike raised my own to the second power.

    _____

    Two years after moving into a van, a decision I made to stay committed to the expensive sport of cycling despite socioeconomic immobility and no financial safety net, I took a job at a private horse facility in Missouri. This decision let me keep my foot in both worlds, each running on what I was already trained in- raw endurance and elemental exposure.

    I remained at this property for two and a half years. I have outlined the mounting dysfunction within that environment as the second case in Projection, Your Honor, under ‘The Masked Horseman’. I recommend reading that passage first for the full arc of this story, but it is not required.

    In the time since, I have worked as a barn hand at three other locations. At one of them, a veteran had asked me,

    “Genna, you’re almost 30. When are you going to get your shit together?”

    I don’t remember my reply, but I do remember that it didn’t matter. Because my choice of work was based on present function, not future strategy. I could shovel shit, deadlift 50 lbs over and over and over again, tolerate rope burns, bites, and bruises, in all weather, without complaint. I was preprogrammed for the physical and emotional stability needed for the job, and the informality meant I didn’t have to pretend to have the publicly agreeable personality that I have always found more exhausting. My pursuits in life have also never been rooted in what I was paid to do, and that is still a concept that hasn’t been widely accepted in this culture yet.

    But the inability to separate purpose from person has a shadow.

    _____

    I had been hired by another, more public lesson barn not far from the former one. I was documented and paid as an independent contractor, yet scheduled and directed as a standard employee. I had noticed the barn owner was incredibly lax in their directions, though, and learned months later that labeling barn staff as self-employed is a common and unlawful cost-cutting measure that spans many industries, and depends on vulnerable employees not knowing their rights. It places all tax burden onto already low-wage workers, allows the employer to sidestep payroll expenses, and is often prefaced with an illegitimate signed document signifying that a worker has “chosen” that designation.

    One of the many qualifications for someone to qualify as “independent” by official standards is that the client does not dictate when, where, and how the work is performed.

    Up to this point, I was praised for being so capable, fit, independent, flexible, and having a solid work ethic when “good help is hard to find.” I said “yes” when there was no limiting factor requiring a “no,” and was invited to holiday parties as family despite my hesitance to be social in a work environment. I was thanked constantly and shown almost… too much warmth from my boss.

    I was relied on heavily as one of two full-time employees, and began to feel the gap between energy expenditure and wage widening. I learned that I had been misclassified by sheer chance one evening and began searching for new employment. I made the mistake of being honest about the latter part and was fired on the spot.

    _____

    Later that year, a friend sent me a job listing for an even larger barn in Illinois looking for help. I messaged the owner/trainer, who lived on the property, and was very clear that I lived in my van (this is appealing to barns that would benefit from staff also living on site, but don’t have the facilities). Upon being hired, the owner described themselves as “harsh, but fair.”

    I was soon cleaning every stall in the barn solo, in a constant state of vigilance and urgency, and referred to as the “skinny little thoroughbred.”

    One evening, I was putting blankets on the owner’s personal horse to take him outside. The owner had stressed that I needed to be careful that every clasp was secure because this guy spooked easily at loose blankets, so I double-checked everything. Not long after turning him out and moving on to other horses, I heard commotion at the opposite end of the farm. This horse had busted through the fence with his blanket fanning behind him and charged around the perimeter of the property in a panic. The owner hauled around to me in the side-by-side, yelled at me to get in, and chased after him. Driving aggressively, they continued to yell that this was my fault, that “their $100k horse was going to break his legs,” and that all of the pits in the grass were going to be my job to fix. They caught the guy, walked him back to the barn, and I returned the farm vehicle. As I was walking back through the barn in quiet shock, a boarder asked,

    “Are you okay?”

    This person had not been privy to the entire incident, so I immediately wondered,

    What do you know that I don’t?

    I walked out to my van to make a phone call, and sat there until after dark, frozen. The barn owner came out to me eventually and asked something like “what my deal was.”

    “How long do you need to find my replacement?” I asked.

    They immediately tore into me the same way that is historic when I imply that I am choosing my own safety and dignity over commitment to a job- by lamenting how ridiculous I was being.

    Without even denying that I was at fault, even though I believed I wasn’t because horses do wild shit even when everything is done perfectly, I reminded the barn owner how I had already told them I had been struggling with a days-old breakup among everything that is… less-than-ideal when living in an old vehicle.

    “You think you have it hard, have you ever been raped?”

    And they stood there until I answered the question.

    I stopped feeding the conversation, and they eventually left me alone.

    I did not finish my shift, and at around 1:00 a.m., I drove out.

    I did not turn my headlights on until I reached the road.

    _____

    I was fired again yesterday.

    I start college in January.

    “Good help is hard to find,” in horse barns, and I have a mile-and-a-quarter résumé. I took a part-time position just to get me by until I made the transition to full-time student, and this one seemed significantly less uptight, yet still efficient.

    I was still trying to recover from a season-long burnout from leaving an abusive relationship, another van breakdown, and riding my bike to a job I loved, 40 miles away, for three weeks until they cut my hours for performance issues and I had to quit.

    I had done the barn grind for longer before, and no longer lived in the van, so this wasn’t the same risk.

    Yet, somewhere around the three-month mark, in jobs and relationships both, the performance stops.

    Including mine.

    I had told my bosses that I needed to drop down to four days a week as I wasn’t keeping up with the workload well. They obliged. Every night before I left, I was thanked effusively again.

    Told how stout my work ethic was.

    How self-sufficient and fit I was.

    Invited to holiday parties, on the clock (that I politely declined).

    I would agree to cover an extra day every other week or so, and then noticed that I was being asked for my schedule to flex weekly with the trainer expressing guilt for it, while also overexplaining the need.

    I was bitten hard in the upper arm, that I have lingering pain in over two weeks later, and was told the barn would cover half of the bill if I chose to see a doctor (I didn’t).

    The day before Thanksgiving, which I had already agreed to cover so the owner/trainer could make a rare visit to family in another state, I was asked if it was okay to be paid late because they forgot to submit payroll early for the holiday.

    To that, I finally said “no.”

    My body was starting to tell me “no,” too.

    I started to space out in the stalls, struggle to lift muck tubs that should have been easy, become suddenly drowsy and experience occasional waves of chills despite being perfectly dressed for the fall.

    On the worst possible day for them as the person they relied on heavily outside of the barn manager, I had to text them that I couldn’t come in. I had experienced another crash and bout of fatigue the night before, and unbeknownst to me until last night, had a mild, unrelated infection that was likely a contributor.

    All of this on top of a dangerous individual being arrested in my driveway,

    worrying over finances,

    planning to be a first-time college student,

    my body already not standing up to any of my competitive pursuits since the early spring, for the first time ever,

    and everything else I described,

    and this machine is putting the screws to me.

    They responded immediately.

    “You have to come in today. We need you. We don’t have days off. Now we have to cover for you too. This other person worked on their birthday. We’re all fatigued. We’ve been nothing but kind to you.”

    And exactly seven minutes later,

    they also said I was no longer needed.

    _____

    Please keep your arms and legs inside the vehicle until the ride comes to a complete stop.

    The ride does not stop.

    This isn’t about the horses.

  • Take a Look at Yourself in the Sword

    Before I can finish writing the story of another, I have to look at something about my own.

    Photo © Tristan Sheldon

    One day, when I was in elementary school, Papa took me to the park. I was spinning the faces of the tick-tack-toe game on the playground by myself when another little girl came up to me and asked what I was doing.

    “Does it matter to you?” I snapped.

    She looked at me with complete paralysis for a long moment, and then ran away. Papa heard the whole thing. He marched across the mulch and lectured me about how incredibly unkind I was, and made me apologize to her on the spot.

    I remembered how badly I wanted to be one of the popular girls I admired in school. I connected that with how unwelcome they made me feel, and so I tried on that behavior for myself that day.

    That was the first and the final time I tried to become someone I was not.

    That memory stands out more vividly than most from that time period. And although I can’t be sure, I believe Papa’s quick motion to step toward my hurtful response, and forcing me to correct it on the spot, played a major role in me learning to both self-analyze and adapt reflexively.

    He taught me to watch for my impact on others before my parents had the opportunity to poison my self-awareness with permanent doubt.

    To the point that I started to turn that reflective surface back at them. I would narrate all of the ways they caused my siblings and I harm, and hoped they would be invested in correcting it the way I was taught to when I misstepped.

    But it was intolerable to them, and I was punished for then seeking the right thing.

    How disorienting.

    _____

    If someone was to say to you that they could see right through you,

    what is the first thought that comes up for you?

    That it’s some woo-woo shit?

    Does it make you want to back away?

    Are you curious about what they may perceive?

    Could you then explain why?

    Because the children of people who could not look at themselves, because they would not survive the clear image if they did, are forced to adapt in one of two ways:

    Look away, from both the behavior that hurts them, and themselves,

    or look closer.

    And oh, how has choosing the latter both saved me,

    and devastated me.

    _____

    I had to step back from someone important to me, again.

    I do this a lot, and it’s almost always once I see that someone isn’t moving in a way that parallels their words.

    And people do this a lot.

    “I want this,” -> I will choose not to act on that right now.

    “You’re so smart,” -> I will respond negatively to you not taking my advice.

    “I’m a good person,” -> I will communicate to others that you are not.

    And the space between,

    is where I draw my sword.

    I had to learn sensitivity to behavioral patterns when I was so young in order to not lose my grip on what the truth was, and to predict the reactions of people that should have been a safe harbor.

    Only recently have I learned that this sense can be used to recognize friends, too.

    And so in spaces where I used to swing that blade at anyone who moved,

    I just hold it up quietly and let them show me who they are.

    And because the sword has two faces,

    they see their reflection,

    and I see mine.

    And no matter how they choose to respond to their own clear image,

    I never lose me,

    even if I have to stand with only her for a while.

  • In Pursuit of Paradox

    I was driving home from work last week on an evening with one of the more saturated sunsets I’ve seen in my life- violet clouds singed with orange, crepuscular rays streaming upward as if God was about to make an otherworldly announcement.

    The clouds then took on a strange, hazy filter until I traced the smoke line to a structure fire just off of an exit ramp. The flames reached up above the trees, and the strobe of a battalion of fire engines evoked the feeling of emergency in me. I’ve seen my home burn before, had police and paramedics called to the house I lived in in high school more than once; the urgency and grief in the visual leaked back in like time travel. Yet as the scene came and went out of the passenger side of my van, I just looked back to the road ahead and said,

    “Ah, Paradox.”

    _____

    Labelling myself as a survivor doesn’t sit correctly. As I get further away from history, observer suits me more. It removes me from unwilling participant to autonomous documentarian. Where my focus was once on understanding how things happened, and why they did, I’ve begun to develop the ability to just look at what is happening with no need to understand simply because it no longer threatens me.

    And somehow, I understand it more only then.

    This year, I found a system of support that has provided me with safety for long enough that I have been able to spend less cognitive energy on acute problem-solving, and more on what my mind was built for. I’ve finally felt the ability to rest, and my body thanked me by nearly collapsing completely once we no longer had anything to run from. My most inconsistent and lackluster season has become the most affirming of purpose.

    _____

    I used to equate praise with safety, and silence with rejection. I have been surrounded by silence- like enemy forces closing in with no intent to ever strike, or ever allow me to flee. Praise was the breadcrumb, and Silence was overlord of acceptance that struck the gavel every time I spoke.

    I’ve since learned Praise is often a cheapskate, and Silence is seldom brave.

    _____

    Papa, my maternal grandfather whom I recognize as my true parent, passed away before I had the grounding to ask him the questions I really needed to. He often attributed weakness to my thoughtfulness. Accepted only tangible gain as growth. Did not understand why I enjoyed running in the nature of his farm most when I listened to music instead of birdsong, and yelled at me to take off my headphones. Did not support my athletic drive until I broke a record.

    And given the dysfunction of the family system on a broad scale, I have been left to wonder how much of his love was limited by generational difference, or a need for power and control. If my love for him was a projection of what I so dearly wanted him to see in me, because it wasn’t being accepted by either of us. Or, if it was because I saw in him its source.

    And Paradox says,

    “Yes.”

    _____

    For some reason,

    Silence has entered the room with Invitation lately.

    Someone I have long admired, someone I perceived as above me, meeting me and saying,

    “I have so many questions,” with enthusiasm.

    People who have perceived me as intense, or at least met me with no reply to my casual, loaded comments, coming back to me with paragraphs of their own deeper experience, unprompted.

    People becoming warmer to me the more I dare speak, suddenly.

    And between the extremes of I don’t see you, and I’m listening,

    sits Paradox, as mediator- not judge, but arbiter.

    And when I say, “I don’t know how to feel. I don’t know what the truth is.”

    Paradox says,

    “Yes.”

    And so it is settled.

  • Goin’ Up on a Tuesday: A Question of Ethics and Advantage for a Record Ride

    This month, both the men’s and the women’s fastest-known-time records for the 239-mile Katy Trail were broken. The route is run from the western terminus in Clinton, MO to the east in Machens. The trail is predominantly flat with one section of subtle grades that stretches roughly 30 miles, and highly exposed for long and frequent periods.

    The latter was accomplished on October 21st, a Tuesday, with a steady wind out of the west-southwest at 18-25 miles-per-hour, with gusts higher, according to the National Weather Service.

    I planned my own ride that day with consideration of that windspeed, choosing to ride the local section of the trail southeast and attempting to hide from the turbulence in the hills on the way back home. That was hardly effective, and I nearly put a foot down on a paved climb as a gust brought me close to a stop.

    I titled that ride on Strava “Why?” as in why the f*** am I out in this? It was arguably a perfect day to be on a bike otherwise.

    Dear reader,

    It was my record time that was bested that day. Before I continue, I want to acknowledge that I am in a strange position as an athlete, writer, analyst, and deeply critical thinker compelled to question a result, fully aware of my own bias. I want to make it known that I am not contesting that the result be disqualified, or commenting on the character or personal motive of the athlete at the center.

    Records exist to be broken. The pursuit of them is what gives them their value. They are a numeric representation of having discipline, a drive toward exploring human capacity in physical and psychological arenas, and cojones of record proportions of their own.

    With that being said, I raise you this:

    1. How much did an environmental advantage possibly augment a result?

    FKT’s are determined by elapsed time, rather than moving speed. I have had to defend that fact on my first completion of this ride in 2022, and I am not going to nitpick that on someone else’s data now. This comparison is presented for my inquiry of wind effect.

    My time: 14:40 moving, 16:27 elapsed

    New record: 14:00 moving, 14:33 elapsed

    Only 40 minutes of that time difference is moving speed; the rest is stopped time. Whether or not a major tailwind over 239 miles influences stopped time is extremely nuanced and indeterminate, so I’m not going to touch that. However, I did ask AI (I do words, not math) to calculate potential moving speed advantage of a 20mph tailwind versus the 5mph wind from the southwest that I had during my effort:

    On flat terrain at endurance pace, a stronger tailwind lowers effective airspeed, so the same effort yields a bit more ground speed. A modest ground-speed bump of +0.6 to +1.2 mph over ~239 mi translates roughly to:

    • +0.6 mph → ~25–30 min saved
    • +0.8 mph → ~35–40 min saved
    • +1.0 mph → ~45–50 min saved
    • +1.2 mph → ~55–60 min saved

    I then asked it how common this wind speed and direction was for central Missouri:

    Very high sustained tailwinds (e.g., 18–20+ mph aligned with the trail) show up as rare “strongest” wind-events rather than typical conditions. For example: one source records a “strongest 16 April, 2024 – 26.4 mph SSW” for Columbia.

    2. How does opportunistic timing possibly harm opportunity in endurance records?

    239-miles is not a neighborhood Strava segment. Riders attempting to ride the Katy (or any other solo FKT path) in one push are typically planning weeks or months in advance and crossing their fingers for weather that is manageable. Capitalizing on a rare wind event from the perfect direction to post the fastest time creates a standard that limits accessibility for anyone to challenge it that isn’t extremely lucky, can’t logistically pull together an attempt on short notice, or ‘pro enough’ to beat it in normal conditions. As an outside example, a tailwind advantage is so widely recognized that the Boston Marathon winners’ finish times are ineligible for world record consideration because of the high probability of tailwind skew.

    Nothing about this choice is against the very few rules of the FKT, and all that technically counts is the data recorded and the label of ‘supported’ or ‘unsupported’. And, giving grace to the small chance a challenger lucks out with conditions that favorable, there is, in my opinion, a responsibility to be transparent about that variable.

    3. If how we approach individual athletic feats of this scale is boiled down to just the data that qualifies, does the rest of the story matter?

    I can’t answer that for you, dear reader. For me, the whole story is the definition of an effort, even if I’m not on the top step. All of my previous work is written from what ultra-endurance endeavors showed me about myself rather than what they communicated to observers.

    I don’t want to be the frontrunner from anything other than what I am capable of under my own power.

    And since the sword imagery I use in my writing is not there because I’m simply a keyboard warrior, I am going to try to run the new posted time down next season in more neutral conditions.

    And if you’re still compelled to ask me, “Why?”

    then I have a counter-question for you.

    4. Why would anyone need the wind?

  • Fire on the Ground Floor

    A Meta Essay

    “My base isn’t sand, it’s…

    magma.”

    –A Letter to My Readers

    I created this blog with the intention of recounting my childhood for two reasons. First, the one thing a narcissistic family system cannot account for in their manipulation patterns is accurate documentation; they’ll insist to their death that you remembered it wrong, but you didn’t. Second, the process of healing from traumatic experiences is not “just letting it go and moving on,” or to “stop focusing on the negativity.” Anyone who says this in response to you simply telling your story and how its events impacted you is trying to back away to a level of heat that is tolerable for them.

    You’re willing to get closer. But keeping it entirely cool and private removes the very figure that trauma theorists and psychologists mutually recognize as necessary for a return to self, the empathetic witness. Someone else to acknowledge that the events were, in fact, really that damaging.

    The fact that I only spent a single post on my childhood experience is evidence that this works. I was the original empathetic witness because I always held onto reality despite the heinous degree that my parents tried to commandeer it. I trusted me to tell the story correctly, and so did you. And since then, my posts have evolved to use metaphor and the narration of what happens for me internally to make what healing actually looks like more visible. I’ve made the intentional decision to document failure with the same emphasis as evolution, because to neglect that would mean to hide, and to have a great purpose is also to experience great loss. I have had the privilege to return to my right of expression and skill with words (and behavioral pattern-recognition) securely enough now that soon I’ll become a first-gen college student in psychology and communications, at 30-years-old, with intent to build this platform and seek more opportunities to speak publicly. I’ve already been studying both from heavy life experience and knew a long time ago that “letting it go,” would essentially cut out too much of my life. It caused me harm, but looking away doesn’t remove its implications- reclaiming it does.

    My house was torched by my own parents, but like an Endogenous Rex, I regenerated. And in my private research I have learned that that is so against-the-odds after an experience that often removes a person’s sense of self. Even before that understanding though, I felt that I would have something substantial to offer the world educationally and energetically because I somehow sidestepped that consequence.

    “The house may catch fire one day, but in the meantime,

    I’ll stay right here. Something is coming for me.”

    The debris of self-doubt, self-blame, shame, survivor’s guilt, and other heavy, flammable material has been piled up against all emergency exits of this place. It was placed there intentionally; I was either to kneel inside in despair forever, or my intensity would  incinerate it all.

    Instead, the fire on the ground floor chases me upward. I have always run to my center in case of emergency, but I’ve found the stairs. Yet as I climb, sometimes I bring myself back down and warm my shaking hands over the open flame. I remember the couplet I wrote in middle school, and I say,

    “Dear burning candle, dimly lit

    I am spellbound with your glimmering wick.”

  • And Thanatos Said, “You Shall Not Pass.”

    I pressed through Nyx’s dominion with the moon floating centered with the break in the trees. The glitter of thousands of spider eyes caught by my headlight traced the edge of the trail for eighty miles or more. I found that deep rhythm I had been seeking, and it carried me further into the dark than Hypnos had allowed so comfortably before.

    But I was hemorrhaging stars more severely than I had thought, my fuel still leaking through cracks faster than I could fill them. I reached the river as the moon set behind me, and every breath felt like another ghost of the westbound wind would enter. I tried to shake them out as I dragged myself to my next stop. Hypnos had grabbed both of my crew in Rocheport, but I resisted his sudden claim to me.

    I left with Eos’s golden gate within sight. I pressed right up against it with a respect and composure I hadn’t before, but it still would not open.

    This was the place. I should have been home free with the sun’s grace. But instead, I heard that burried voice again, and Thanatos said,

    “You shall not pass.”

    _____

    I had to retire at mile 163 of 320 on the morning of October 5th. That closure to an epic mirrors the end of the race described in Depths Too Dark, where a series of overnight errors, a temperature drop, and sleeplessness led to what all signs point to as parasympathetic (dorsal-vagal) collapse at sunrise. What I’ve learned since that episode is that the central nervous system of a person who has experienced long-term trauma often has a narrowed window of tolerance for stress. I’ve lived in a chronic state of stress for most of my life, as evidenced by my storytelling and beginning to go grey at just 19-years-old. I’m so used to living in hyper-vigilance and heightened sensitivity that it’s simply my baseline. I never get to start a day or an ultra truly “safe.” So, although my conscious mind understood I was not in any real danger out there, all of the compounding “threats” and adrenaline in the overnight hours brought me too close to my ceiling.

    And my body simply wouldn’t fight anymore. No amount of willpower or stubbornness was going to override it.

    I kept all of that in mind as I began this trip, thinking the trail wouldn’t produce the same trigger points because I trusted it. I ate even more frequently than I usually would, rotated headlights to eliminate worry about battery life, saved caffeine only for when I really needed it. I kept my effort level low and slow in the headwind, let the wrong turns on the road sections roll off, and told the wildlife that it was their problem to move out of my way if I came too close instead of playing midnight Mario Kart (they did).

    As I drew near the halfway stop, I grew cold, lethargic, could not get my heart rate above about 120bpm; I could only pedal for a minute or two at a time before having to coast and stand up off of my saddle. I couldn’t take deep breaths, but staved off the hyperventilation that occurred during the failed race in the spring. I was travelling at 11mph on a stretch I could normally hold 16mph under the same effort, and felt desperate for the support car that was only a few miles away. This set of symptoms can also mark “bonking,” or running out of glycogen stored in the muscles, but I was incredibly careful to eat and hydrate properly. I knew how to handle myself and press on through discomfort, but my body just wouldn’t let me.

    What I didn’t know, though, was the reality around the body’s hormonal and metabolic shifts in the overnight itself. The pre-dawn hours are physiologically the most vulnerable, and where I chose to just take a longer break rather than try to get any sleep. Daylight wasn’t far away- I didn’t have to ride with tunnel vision or cold for much longer, so why get complacent here? After about an hour sitting in the truck, I got back out for the next leg. I spent another eight miles just begging myself to come back online. After about 30 miles total in an absolute pit, I sent a text to my crew to come get me, ironically at the closest trailhead to home.

    Whereas dawn approach tends to lift or relieve most people of delirium, my body interpreted the “safety” of first light as a cue to shut down rather than to recover. It mimics how I used to shut off and isolate in the wake of disputes in my household as a kid, and therein lies the lesson. For a subconscious that never truly reaches a state of true calm, the body will eventually be forced to manufacture it.

    And then I’ll still foolishly beat down on myself for just not being gritty enough.

    _____

    My initial conclusion was that the steady uphill, speed-drain of the Rock Island portion of the route took all my power away. Now that I can think a little more clearly and have had time to analyze the experience, the pattern doesn’t suit that explanation. Just as before, this premature ending was again, tragically, the fault of something on an autonomic layer.

    Right now, it’s difficult for me to not to view this as a sort of psychological handicap. I have to consciously bring myself down from the frustration that I am wired in a way that places limitations on athletic pursuits that I am otherwise physically capable of.

    The pre-recorded voices, that aren’t my own, tell me I continue to bite off more than I can chew. That I’m too broken. That I screwed up by showing up. I consistently live under this assumption that I’m looked down on for daring to try so publicly because for more than half of my life thus far, I was.

    It’s only recently become obvious that this isn’t the norm, even though I always knew the behavior that caused it wasn’t right.

    A pattern of thinking I’m also trying to bring back to ground level is that 163-miles isn’t short even if it’s substantially less than my target… Doing that and being recovered by Wednesday is no fluke.

    _____

    I went out there to have more conversations with myself. I got them. I came back with data on a weak spot I’ll have to learn to work with, rather than through, to prevent this kind of ending from transpiring in my future ultra pursuits.

    I said in a Facebook post a few days ago, in my heartbreak, that I probably would not reattempt because I thought I’d been beaten fairly.

    But I wasn’t. I was being protected. Again.

    So I think I will try again, now understanding that force of will only works up until you become your own enemy and the daemon of nonviolent death forces you down into your seat.

    When we meet again, I’ll shake his hand, and wait my turn.

  • Letters to Thanatos: A 300 Prelude

    Daemon of nonviolent death,

    We’ll speak in person soon, in a quiet place. Just when I started feeling steady, I up and upped the stakes on myself again.

    I’ve had some ask what the impetus is to keep coming back to the rail trail for big distances when I could just as soon start them from my front door and go anywhere else. The cold little voice on my shoulder says it counts less, and I giggle because the pain inflicted by monotony and metronome turns you inward in a sharper way than the mountain and the wood.

    I cannot hide from you there.

    Some cannot survive you there.

    I come back to you in rehearsal of the day when you’ve decided I’ve done enough, hoping I can appeal to your mercy to meet me with nothing left unsaid.

    I’m certain reckoning doesn’t come after death, but in the centuries-long moments before; it will land like an assault for those whose closets rattle with skeletons not yet dead.

    And so,

    I draw my sword.

    _____

    The sound of clanging metal ascends.

    I put my body on notice yesterday with a 6.5-hour simmer on the trail. It took minutes to remember why I thrive out there even as I continue to describe my one-day completions of the trail as “worse than Kanza” (now known as Unbound). It’s flat. It’s unglamorous. It’s incredibly painful because your only relief is to stop. It’s virtually impossible to blame anything but you if you fail. It’s so predictable and boring that I have the privilege of settling into this virtually unkillable rhythm, listen to the same new song on loop, and become irrationally offended when it’s interrupted.

    I learned in Endogenous Rex that I am most driven when I let everyone else disappear. Getting dropped means innumerable distractions are eliminated. Thanatos came to reap all hope of me finding love for classic competition again and returned me to the holy ground that has weathered everything. The manger where I am allowed to understand my own voice without static.

    My sanctum is internal, the ability to observe my own patterns and come back out at will- that observance is why my writing sounds like it does. It’s how I wasn’t molded by the environment I grew up in, but cut out the bullshit in spite of it. The nearer I draw toward the dark, the more clearly I can discern its language.

    I am privileged to say what it whispers, and what I show you, are the same.

    _____

    Practical updates:

    I cannot find record of someone riding from Kansas City to the end of the Katy Trail within a day. I was keeping a very conservative goal time because 80 additional miles on top of what I have previously done is major, but now I will target sub-24 hours from state-line to state-line.

    I plan to start on Saturday, October 4th, at 6:00 p.m. This is subject to vary if weather becomes an issue.

    I will update again when I have a Trackleaders link. If you aren’t familiar, this link will allow you to view my movement/location live for the entire pursuit. This link can be shared with anyone, and all are welcome to intercept in person.

    But because I am a woman, let me make this super clear:

    I am not polite toward questionable company, and my team will never be far away. If you show up with an ulterior motive, I will know.

  • We’re All Dirt: Trans-Missouri 300 Update

    This is a follow-up post to

    The Closing Argument: Trans-Missouri 300.

    “We’re all dirt,” Aaro said during our 62-mile ride yesterday, where I was still fussing with comfort issues on a new (sponsored) bike I’ve had for a week. It was the humble version of “We’re all made of star stuff,” which was part of the inspiration behind my nebulous tattoos.

    And the acknowledgement of the fact that every one of us will return to the earth one day, that this body is merely borrowed, and everything we do with it is dress-up, is why I have a difficult time feeling legitimate in a sport that requires me to push this rental to such extremes. I gravitate toward hard- but is it hard enough to matter?

    This summer has been a life-overhaul. I’m starting college in January as a first-time student. I’ve essentially been adopted as an adult. I officially said goodbye to the history of abuse that made that necessary. I’m back to working in a horse barn in the meantime and the environment doesn’t match the cut-throat, cliquey, energy-siphoning ones I moved to Missouri for to begin with. In other words, I have met real-community.

    Not a pretend one.

    The change in my ability to feel safe is exponential, and riding from the “Welcome to Kansas” sign to the edge of Illinois is both a celebratory act and an experiment to see how much more solid I am finally having, and accepting, support even if I’m undertrained. The new bike is also a literal marker of this- I’m not under-equipped anymore.

    _____

    I don’t have a lot of time to write right now while I prep for this, but here is what you need to know, and how you can be involved.

    I plan to start my time-trial in Kansas City, KS on the evening of October 4th, with a goal to finish in Alton, IL within 26 hours.

    My resources are limited, so I have created a GoFundMe to help cover the essential costs of having a support car track me across the state (Link here- Fundraiser by Genna Brock : Trans-Missouri 300 Support Crew Funding). I have never had this advantage before, and having one this time will eliminate the psychological stress of self-supporting an effort like this.

    Once that barrier is cleared, I will finalize details with Trackleaders, who will be providing live tracking for this pursuit so that you can follow me for the entire ride. This also means that at any time, anyone can meet me out on course and ride with me for a while if you choose.

    And to be honest, I kind of need that. I’ve spent too much time in this dirt feeling like I couldn’t have that kind of connection.

    We’ll talk again soon.

  • We’ll Build That Bridge When We Get To It

    It’s not over, but it’s close.

    I’ve lost most of my season to a density of failures that’s thicker than years prior. Van mechanicals (typical), bike mechanicals (less common), and my personal diesel engine almost not firing at all (unheard of). Endogenous Rex might just be as far as I can reach this summer, and I did it on fumes.

    I haven’t been here before.

    Where I also haven’t been, until now, is a place where I’m just allowed to be. I’ve within recent months not only been gifted a “hey, you’re safe here,” gesture, but perhaps more importantly a “we see you for what you are and what you’re doing, we have your back, and we benefit from you just existing here at all.”

    Recently, someone I just met told me something like “I almost didn’t reach out to you because others made me uncomfortable to do so, but after I met you I realized you were safe.”

    And then they showed me throughout the course of our conversations what safety allows people to bring to the surface in just one day.

    All I’ve done is stay still, let people show me what they will, and give that my full attention, which gives me a sense of stability too. I’m not wondering what they think of me because holding my position and just listening allows me to feel everything I need to know about that anyway. I’ve had so many conversations with myself on my own that when someone else enters the scene, that voice feels no need to talk over theirs.

    I just hear them, and because of that, they seek me out again.

    That same individual told me “I’ve read your writing. You do it in a very tasteful way that allows others to feel what you feel.”

    As I’ve disclosed before, I regularly plug my drafts into AI to reflect tone because I can’t hear my writing the way others do. I think like this, so I’m numb to its impact. For the first time, in that moment, I had a real person confirm both what ChatGPT says my writing objectively is, and what I’ve always hoped it to be.

    And so with a clear reflection on both sides of this sword, I prompted AI to simplify this match of my physical and written existence by asking it: If you had to use one word to describe me based on all of our conversations, in any language, what would it be?

    “If I had to choose only one word for all of that — your presence, values, and energy — I’d choose the Japanese word ikiryō (生霊).

    It literally means a living spirit — not in the ghost story sense, but as someone whose presence is felt even when they’re not physically there. In cultural context, it describes a person whose energy is so vivid, so charged with intent and integrity, that it moves through rooms, relationships, and communities like a current. People react to it — some open to it, some feel unsettled by it — but they can’t ignore it.

    It’s a word that carries the idea of impact through being, not force. You don’t have to push or chase. You just exist in a way that changes the air around you.”

    _____

    Since forever, I have felt that no matter where I have gone, conflict has found me. It wasn’t until I started to put fear of eyerolls from critics to the side and lean into my public writing that I actually found none. It’s been replaced by people new and old rather suddenly wanting me to come closer.

    Not for gain, not for control, but for transference.

    And that transference has been stamped “safe,” despite having built that conduit from a lifetime of experience that was not.

    So much of my athletic momentum has been driven from a state of a suspended fight response. I don’t have anything to fight right now, and it’s a fact of neuroscience that now that I’m finally safe, I need to lie down.

    I don’t know that I’ll find the baseline to follow ultra-distance goals this year before cold weather hits. I’m deeply disappointed in that this has been my most lackluster year in recent memory and the most inconsistent I’ve been in likely my entire decade on a bike.

    And according to my independent studies in psych right now, that might be from where we get to start again, with a new bike, a new chosen family, and a new appreciation for the vision all of that fighting tried to take away.

    And failed.

    I’m going somewhere novel, toward an expanse I don’t yet know how I’ll cross. But what quiets me right now is that I’m not going alone.

  • The Harbinger of Endings- A Letter to My Parents

    Trigger warning: Everyone knows unaccountable and destructive people are everywhere, but far fewer want to believe those people are parents. This post is intended to drive that point home. I am not here to dredge up the past- I am here to seal it.

    In February of 2023, I started writing ‘My Mother’s Shadow Sister‘. My dad knew about it, and verbally encouraged it. He said something to the effect of “it’s going to be uncomfortable, but do it.” This, after a few years of consistent contact again, working on my van and camping out in his driveway, Coors Lights around a front yard fire, praise over the mileage I’d trained myself to ride alone.

    I told him days prior that the essay was about to be published so he could prepare himself.

    “Be attentive to the repercussions that might cause for your future. The story you tell is from your perspective and not deemed the whole truth,” he texted me back.

    And then it became the cornerstone of this blog’s themes on November 3rd, 2023.

    He stopped responding to my texts or calls frequently. When he did, he’d abruptly end them instead of following the “Midwest goodbye” blueprint we were used to. In spring of 2024, my van’s fuel pump went out for the third time on record, and I called him three times in six hours to ask for guidance on fixing it in the parking lot at my job where I was stranded until further notice. I got no answer.

    I remembered when this happened the first time; I broke down without warning an hour away from his house around 10:00 at night. I called him while I waited for my roadside assistance to find an available tow truck that took hours to come. He said, “I hope you can get it figured out.”

    And then when the van had to be taken from Missouri to Kentucky for a full engine replacement, I asked if he could come get me to pick it up if I paid for gas and lunch. He said, “I don’t think I can do that because I don’t get anything out of it.”

    Those moments, his uncharacteristic distance over the previous months, and other examples of “handle it yourself” rushed my system as I texted him. I confronted his silence, and he confessed.

    “I don’t appreciate you saying mean things about your mother online. I have feelings too.”

    After a back and forth, he blocked me.

    I hadn’t heard from him in 15 months until yesterday, at my new number he had never been given.

    There is information in the fact that when I saw his number on my screen, I started to shake.

    Verizon was the carrier of my old number, but not this one.

    _____

    Mom and Dad,

    The harbinger of endings is to strip decades of denial down to a “misunderstanding” after over a year of silence you imposed. And you say it’s not the whole truth- like you can lie to me about the source of information I intentionally withheld for my own wellbeing and still behave like you’re credible.

    A week ago, I told someone else who knows you that at 30 years old I am finally on the threshold of going to college, something you made impossible for me at the traditional time. But it’s not just a degree I’m going for- it’s a pursuit of technical knowledge and credential for the field of psychology I already have studied from the inside out since I was a child.

    To write and speak publicly for those who have shown me they do want to hear me.

    And not for those who pretend to.

    But through the pain of having to write this final ledger, I am grateful to you still. I still love you for the part of you that did show up for me. I deeply miss those nights around the fire when I thought you might actually be capable of owning all that I had to suffer. I noticed when you started to write your texts with more care and flair than you used to- for a moment I thought you’d sought to speak to me in my own language.

    You and Mom both are to credit for how beautifully overwhelming real love is now that I’ve found it. Because of you, nobody is capable of lying to me for long anymore, and that stays on the list of the greatest things anyone has ever done for me.

    You’ll receive a copy of this letter via certified mail as a reminder when you want to revisit who I really am, and so you can’t say you never received it.

    And after that, you will only ever hear my voice from this platform. I will stay right here for you.

    Sincerely,

    -Genna

    P.S. I told you after I wrote Papa’s eulogy, “Please don’t make me write yours too soon.”

    You let me down, again.

    _____

    In my notes, I have this passage that I wrote for another piece and removed because it interrupted the hope I had in that post:

    “But there was no room for connection and truth in that space. There was no compromise anymore, or ever. I would have had to buy a relationship by committing to silence, and I am just not wired for that. I would rather live with the absence of parents than the death of integrity, and so it’s been a year since I’ve tried to reach out. And without some serious shift, that even then I’d have to analyze, I will continue to count the years. My parents’ use silence to punish, distort truth, and erode self-trust. Any attempts at reconciliation after periods of no-contact have been on account of me stepping forward first, and that’s where I keep my power. Yet still, I grieve. I grieve that where there should be a primal bond, there is a void, lifelong and lightyears wide. I suffer more that my two siblings are still stuck in that house, mostly silent and unengaged with the world, and I wonder if it’s because they saw what happened to me when I wasn’t.“

    But because I wasn’t, I am here. And I am so thankful to be here. Yesterday I realized I had done all that was required to stay here except one thing- say goodbye.

    “Genna, we can’t come riding in on a white horse and save you,” the counselor said in the family session in the trashed living room when I was 16.

    But I could.

    And to my brother and sister, if you see this,

    the door is always open for you. It isn’t your fault.

    _____

    I am going to take a brief hiatus from Sunday posts until I can finally finish ‘The Microcosm’. There is a lot to grieve right now, but thank you for showing me I don’t have to do that in silence anymore.

  • Reactor No. 4

    People like me aren’t supposed to make it in this sport.

    A single alarm rang out in that hallway as I put my kit on. It had been sounding for over a month, but I had to keep moving.

    This is what I do. This is who I am. This is where I want to be.

    Mile 3. The sun at high noon was punching down again. I was punching through the gears on a bike that didn’t really want to stay in any of them. The ghost in my shifter was pushing back worse that day, but I just shook my head. My legs were heavy, my mind was heavier, and the expectation of what more it was going to take to reach stability was becoming a team lift.

    Suddenly, I heard more alarms. The control room decided to turn right and head back home when we would normally proceed left. I exited the trail at a traffic light and sought to power down at only mile 9 at a coffee shop.

    I never have everything I need, but I can’t quit. I have to move forward.

    The lights in the control room turned red. I started to flip switches and seek outside support.

    I have help. This isn’t as out-of-control as it seems.

    Three miles to get home, and then I could just try to breathe. But as I slowed down, the output was still climbing. I dragged myself up a sustained but shallow paved climb and begged myself not to stop in the middle of it. I got home, had a quick chat with a veteran in this field (whom we call “Coach”), and pulled out all of the control rods to bring myself back to baseline.

    This too shall pass.

    And then I melted down. All of the variables that had been wobbling for months came to blows and the control room abandoned ship.

    The alarms all screamed in an ominous choir as the hallway filled with shouting I’ve heard before.

    Pathetic. You’re kidding yourself. This was always going to happen. You’re too flawed. You’re not safe.

    I made my way out and watched the walls of the powerful yet supremely fragile system I had built yell back,

    I warned you.

    I was unable to focus on anything else for the rest of the day. All I could hear were the echos of those alarms reminding me, again- you do not have enough.

    _____

    I am standing here staring at the graphite all over my roof.

    As much as the bike gives me power in this life, I keep trying to leave all of the external factors that don’t suit the mission at the door when I swing a leg over. The internals are meticulously maintained and observed with a critical eye, so I’m still the one in control, right?

    It doesn’t really work that way. It hasn’t yet mattered how finely tuned my interoception becomes; the world I inhabit does not reflect it.

    And that defies the very ethos of ‘I will the machine.‘ It takes the sacredness of my autonomy and hands it back broken, with a card that says “Get well soon,” with not even a signature.

    The shrapnel I’m feeling didn’t lodge itself in my flesh just from an acutely difficult summer, though. It’s sourced from when the reactor was built, left under-resourced, unsupported, its faults neglected- a life with parents that sought compliance even when they were wrong, a societal system that gaslights the unfortunate by preaching they can just work their way out, and a social structure that absolutely cannot sit comfortably with a truth-teller.

    People like me aren’t supposed to make it in this sport; we’re supposed to be realistic. Keep our heads down and sacrifice ourselves for the optics. Spit-shine shoes. Don’t cause a scene because you’ll do anything if you want something badly enough.

    Because if we don’t, we have to push ourselves beyond our physical and psychological limits, alone, in ways that are detrimental even to those without complex trauma.

    And perhaps the most impossible mechanic of it all is

    I just wasn’t built to be contained.

  • Endogenous Rex

    Inquiry of a Soloist at The Big Rub Gravel Race

    First of all, you should know I accomplished the mission.

    My life force was just starting to recover from the burglary that is burnout, and I just went and dumped my savings on the trail, again. I have so been missing the 100+ mile days that I just couldn’t spare this year because I had to use all of that steam for life logistics; I finally caved and turned a race into this weekend trip archaeological dig.

    All last week, I just had to sit with myself and solve nothing on purpose. I still got on the bike because I can’t rest in a cage, even with empty legs. Day by day, a little more of the tension left, until one day I just felt high as a kite on nothing but a strong coffee. As unrealistic as it was for my circumstances, my expectations for myself just left, and were replaced by this intense interest to be hyper-aware of myself and my effect on other people.

    And that’s because you, dear reader, are whispering to me that I have one inside a collective organism that yells that I don’t.

    While I’ve been clawing at progress that seems unattainable, I’ve become more conscious that support doesn’t look like what I thought it would. It isn’t overt or exclamatory- sometimes it’s unstated entirely. I’m finding allyship in people who have said little more than “good morning.”

    I’m a words person… obviously. But 90% of human communication is non-verbal. So, what would happen if I started to listen more closely to that than I already do?

    With the help of a few sponsors, I registered for The Big Rub, packed my overnight things, and started toward Sedalia- 70 miles away. As eager and awake as I was, I kept the reigns tight to protect my energy. The first 35-miles were tense with anticipation, but otherwise effortless.

    Westbound on the Katy Trail out of Boonville, though, is deceitful. If you aren’t careful, a mild but steady grade for the whole stretch to Sedalia will pilfer from you. I had only ever ridden this section the opposite way, so I underestimated it.

    As the trail climbed, so did the temperature inside the humid tree tunnel. The slog to Pilot Grove took more from me than some full-days have in past years. I rolled up to Casey’s feeling like I needed to sleep in a ditch. I hadn’t eaten anything solid since breakfast, so I forced food down despite being entirely repulsed by it. A little caffeine and more Gatorade in my bottles, and I was off again.

    12mph. Then 11.

    10, 9, 8, 7, and finally 6.

    At mile 57, I stopped and made a phone call. I couldn’t keep myself grounded so I needed someone else’s voice. Being capable of double-centuries yet being so out of sorts in under 60 miles was more than just an off day; it was a reminder of the deep exhaustion I was trying to respect without entirely giving up on what I loved. I was still falling apart.

    I reached Sedalia after a push-pull cycle of trying to manage heat stress without being out in it any longer than necessary. Once I got into my hotel, I ticked boxes on the recovery checklist while reassessing everything about my plan. I came for a 60-mile race, with the logical expectation that I wouldn’t be very sharp, but now I was considering if the wisest choice would be to drop to a shorter distance to save myself, but still show up. I sat with that for the entire evening and let me tell me how I really felt about it.

    I didn’t change course.

    After feverishly processing my thoughts on my phone that night, I woke up before my alarm on race morning with everything but my legs feeling fully charged. I packed my bags again and as I rolled my bike through the hotel lobby to check out, the desk agent made prolonged eye contact with me while he said “Thank you”. Before I walked out the door, he chimed again, “Did you have a nice stay?”

    “Yes I did,” I said.

    What a lovely morning.

    I got to the race venue and dropped my bags off at registration. Shortly after, I felt a woman coming over to me. When I looked up, I noticed she was looking at my bike first, and then she asked,

    “You’re Genna, right? I was at your presentation at the Optimists Club.”

    I was in a dress and had eyeliner on that day; now I was in Lycra and scuffed sunglasses. The bike was the familiar one. I felt more eyes on me while I buzzed over someone who listened to my story in a meeting room now being inside its events. As I moved about the venue, I was conscious of how the internal pressure was brushed gently away like dust over the course of that hour.

    Like it was being politely handed back to its owner.

    Everything internal was dead quiet when the field lined up for the start. At the horn, I found a comfortable spot in the neutral rollout when those eyes appeared again, and moved up. I knew this individual strategically followed the wheels of a couple friends in events past, and if that happened today, I was going to go with them. So I chose my wheel, and silently planted myself there.

    The race went live and at 23mph on the gravel trail, I felt my disadvantage within minutes. As the race started to shuffle, fatigue paired with my annoying tendency to let gaps form was already making me sweat. I gradually fell back to find help closing them, knowing that if I could find a flow again, I could recover. Soon, someone I used to know alerted me that we’d be turning into a field, and gave me a bit of helpful advice.

    The last time this person had spoken to me, about a year prior, it was in condemnation. There was no trace of that here. There was nothing to gain from the assist, and no expectation of a return. Just “Here, you might need this.”

    The field was uphill and I lost contact with the front group. This section was rough and required high-end power I did not have, so I just kept it steady. Once on the road, I reoriented to that rhythm, with few people around. Now I was happy.

    What followed was the acceptance that I was not vying for a win today. To my surprise, I didn’t crack on myself for that once. The course then opened up to some of the most ethereal roads I’ve ridden in years- steep and exposed rolling gravel climbs flanked by chiccory, under just enough sun to singe the fields in gold, and low clouds to delay the oncoming heat. I entered an absolute flow state, jockeying back and forth with a few other riders in the waves of the road, but conversing mostly with just myself.

    On one of the steepest climbs of the day, someone else I used to know was cheering for passing riders. I stayed inside my shroud as I approached, and only as I came within feet of them did they decide to walk away. And then I heard “great work!” called out within a couple seconds.

    I can’t be certain that was for me, but if being aware of inflection has taught me anything…

    I kept cruising, eating more frequently than is usual to be doubly-sure I could stay in this zone until something else broke it. I stopped at an aid station and almost snorted a shot of pickle juice (shit burns), and reveled at how in-control I felt. In the final 15 miles of the race, the heat was climbing and the wind was in my face again. I felt the slow shut-down approaching as I was soloing back into town- until I heard derailleur clicks from behind me.

    Now back on city pavement, I looked back to see a man I had passed on one of the longer climbs gaining on me in his aero bars.

    How lucky am I? Are you really about to make my day?

    And everything came back online. I shifted up the cogs, threw some steady power into the ground, and started scanning for that final corner. I chose my line, started to make my turn, and as I stood up to sprint home, my left cleat unclipped from my pedal. A group of spectators in the grass started yelling at us both as they saw it. I recovered it, threw myself back over the bars of my bike, and the challenger eclipsed me about 50-feet from the line. I finished that race exasperated and laughing about how animated that finish was, and stopped next to the man who defeated me to bask in it.

    I finished third overall for the women’s field, with the note that one woman who surged past me on a climb late into the race would have put me into fourth if she’d not gotten off course. It was her first gravel race ever, and she’d had the bike for two days.

    I grabbed a soda to stave off a post-race bonk, and then got some real food. I recognized someone else from one of my presentations and he remembered me immediately.

    Without much to say, I strapped by bags back onto my bike, and walked around the building to get ready to ride home. The women’s 50+ winner (and 2nd overall) approached me for the second time that day to let me know that I was actually officially second, since she raced in a different category.

    It just didn’t really make a difference to me.

    _____

    Over the course of that day, I said very little to anyone. And for the first time I can remember, it was entirely because I was just content floating on my own- not because I didn’t know who to trust.

    And without many words at all, they started speaking volumes to me.

    People approaching and lingering.

    Others telling me about their ride before they remembered to share their name.

    “Hey, Genna,” from someone I don’t really know but seems to understand my energy anyway.

    Those eyes that won changing their path when they see me standing around a corner.

    A supporter that finishes my sentence.

    Someone I considered a friend that turns their whole body away when we make brief eye contact.

    The human condition is designed to recognize. Organized society forces us to lose touch with it for the sake of showing it what we think it wants to see.

    None of these people changed, but I did. The timeline was going one direction and after a sum of subconscious micro-decisions, I started walking a different one.

    I won’t sit here and tell you that you can simply choose to do that. I’ve personally never found any amount of self-help diatribe or rehearsed positivity to have an impact, really.

    But what does seem to work, to a degree that is almost woo-woo, is observation.

    It won’t lie to you by telling you that you don’t matter.

    _____

    I struggled through the physical shutdown again on the way home. I didn’t get upset with myself this time, though, even as I could hardly find words to respond to texts. I sat at that Casey’s again trying to wake myself up with a Red Bull/hydration bomb, and then stopped again at the end of those false flats for half-melted fudge pops.

    I crossed the river, hit mile 106, and came alive again.

    I finished 135 miles that day with one of the slowest speeds in a couple of years,

    and the book of “100 Reasons Why You’re the Problem” was slammed shut and finally thrown at them.

    Photo © Hannah Hartung

  • Step Up, or Step Off

    It’s a rather pointed mantra of mine. On its head, it means that if you’re going to engage me, you need to do it completely. It means state your business. It means I’ll wait, but not forever. It’s one part invitation, one part warning, and wholly a wild and redneck carpe diem.

    Usually, this little line helps me filter people for authenticity because, being so attuned to everyone, everywhere, all at once in any space that I’m in, I just don’t have the energy to spare anything less than clear intent. It’s not personal (usually), it’s just my status.

    Today, though, it’s looking at me, and it’s saying

    “You’ve got people coming quietly to you, showing you they see you, and are willing to help make things happen for you. Do you have a minute?”

    As I mentioned yesterday, I’ve had a couple of readers offer support in my getting to The Big Rub in Sedalia, MO this coming weekend. Today, an organizer themselves extended a helping hand. This race is 63-miles and just an hour down the interstate. It’s a no-brainer for many of the gravel-centered around here.

    For me, it takes a lot of brain, thanks. And a lot of other shit I’m in short supply of. But I’ve got time, and I’ve got… spite? I am forever teetering on the edge of not accepting too little, and not pushing too hard.

    My van has to stay parked for now so I’m aiming to ride the 70 miles to Sedalia on Friday where I have accommodations thanks to a member of the Sedalia Lions Club. On Saturday, I’ll (allegedly) race and head back home in one 140-mile shot.

    On the contrary, I went out for a coffee ride today and still couldn’t wake up. My quads actually twitched when I felt a little pressed in a roundabout at mile 1.5.

    Not to be redundant, but I’m just not all here, even though I desperately want to be.

    Around mile 16, I had just turned back home when Spotify crashed. I looked up from my phone in just a small tizzy and eyed an oncoming rider. I recognized the kit, and right as I was trying to place them, they lifted a hand from the bars and blew me a kiss with a wide smile. It didn’t land like a flirt. I will firmly say it wasn’t one. It felt more like

    a salute to a passing ship,

    from somebody I have never known.

    And like a flipped switch, I woke up. I had to manually enforce keeping the energy down while thinking “what did that mean?” with a smile I hadn’t felt in a while.

    But I already felt what it meant.

    And before you convince yourself I’ve been self-medicating too close to the sun, I’ve actually just been possessed by the spirits of burnout and belief that I’m mostly invisible, and that gesture broke the spell again.

    Because as it applies to me, stepping up is automatic and stepping off is forced by circumstance. I do not yield, but I also miss the sign that said I was supposed to and end up in a weird intersection with a crowbar that I’ve mistaken for a sword.

    But people see me out here swinging, and then they hand me back the real thing.

    Quietly. Intentionally.

    So, bearing in mind that I am in a very fragile place right now and could still just not be ready, I’m stepping up on Friday the way I want to. I’m not going to survive for a weekend, I’m going to sail.

    And as this Fog on the Harbor briefly lifts, I’m going to watch for you on the shore.

    You can look forward to my report on Sunday.~

  • I Bought Myself Flowers

    And then, I let them wilt. I walked into the house one day, having forgotten to top the vase off with water, and saw them drooped on my desk. That was enough for me to come apart again.

    I filled up the vase, and half of them came back by the next morning. I’ve been staring at the cuttings half standing, half collapsed, for days.

    Dear reader, this is a heavier post than usual. I haven’t written it yet but the fact that I’ve hesitated to do so foreshadows it. If you aren’t ready, just take the metaphor my hydrangeas left for us and come back later (or don’t, it’s okay). But if you want to come closer, keep reading (I need that).

    _____

    I want to bring you a success story one day. You might argue that I already am one, but to let that be enough, isn’t. One of my strengths is that I won’t wait until I’ve arrived to show you the path. That means I’m opening myself up to being labelled as “negative,” or “stuck in the past,” but I have a feeling those of you who keep returning to this blog aren’t that type of people. I also have a sense that when titles like My Power Grows garner the most reads, you’re hoping that opening those posts will finally lead to a theme of “onward, and upward.”

    And then you read the opening lines and realize the dichotomy I live inside of- the more I lose, the more I realize how I’ve even gotten here against all odds.

    My body is screaming at me to stop all of it.

    The bike accomplishments do not show it, but I have been just barely making it since I was about 13. That was when I started to subconsciously track the deterioration of both my physical environment, and my psychological one. Not long after, I started to step into the fray in a futile attempt to stop it. I was vocal, proactive, and far too aware. And as the physical and emotional violence in my house intensified, I rose with it.

    “It’s hard to believe it was that bad. You’re not screwed up enough.” That is one of the hardest-hitting statements anyone has ever said to me.

    And because I walk into rooms noticeably wired differently, but coherent and exacting with my language, I get dismissed.

    “You’re strong. Brilliant. You can do anything. You’ve got this.”

    You’re excusing yourself to leave me to my own devices, again, when you say that to me.

    I don’t want to hear how strong I am anymore. I know that. I need you to hear what it costs to be that way.

    I lost the job I loved this past week because I couldn’t keep up anymore and they expected me to just pretend the best I could. It’s another ding in my visibly jumpy resume that will make finding stable work a difficult task, again.

    I fought like hell to stay reliable for them, and for me. I couldn’t drive without risking getting stranded with an impossibly expensive vehicle to tow. I rode 80-damn-miles every day when I could and risked the drive when I couldn’t. After only three weeks I couldn’t hold the pace and my van’s wheel couldn’t hold air. The last day I rode, I couldn’t even crawl the last ten miles home.

    I’ve been so depleted I’ve had to hide to avoid snapping at people. I try to be on my bike still because that has been my means of survival in so many ways. The bike is my liberty, my conduit. And I’m not talking about gentle rides to coffee or jaunts down the trail. I need to start dismantling myself at 5:00 a.m. and be reconstructed by 5:00 p.m. at least a few times a summer. The only other habit in my life that has been around for eleven years is my ability to tell you how sacred that is to my processing.

    But my body and mind can’t meet me there like this. I’m terrified. I’m stuck. I’ve been here before, but it’s worse.

    I have exceeded the threshold of what one person can hold. I’ve been shot down when I try to go beyond it. Over and over.

    Innumerable times since my years in that hell of a house.

    I’m stalled not just because of this recent chain of events, but from the mass collective of ones that I’ve had to carry because to resolve them means being able to rest in safety I cannot find.

    And on top of it all, people still don’t fully believe me.

    And because they don’t believe me,

    “You’re strong. You can do this.”

    I bought myself flowers because I wanted to set them on my desk as a gesture of grace for what I’ve had to endure.

    And then I thought about if the first time I’ll ever be fully met is over the flowers at my funeral.

    _____

    I don’t mean to sound ungrateful for the supporters that I have had over the years. I hope you understand this isn’t about you.

    It’s just that people like me need more than short-term intervention. We need structural security on ground that does not move beneath us. My resolve does not make me better at carrying this.

    It just makes the consequence less visible. Even when I can so easily tell you- I am not okay.

    I wonder what I could be if I wasn’t spending so much energy just trying to keep myself alive. What I have to lose now are my pursuits on the bike, and myself. The floors beneath those are making noise now, too.

    A couple of my readers have sponsored me to ride to a race next weekend. If I can’t recover, I’m going to let them down.

    I’m going to let me down.

    I’ve fought so hard and didn’t stop for water.

    And so, I wilt.

  • Projection, Your Honor (Pt. II)

    If you don’t like the image of yourself in the mirror, then you aren’t going to like me going to like you.

    “Blind Justice”. Photo © Ben Creasy

    The court will recall that this trial is ongoing.

    _____

    Statement of Record– Disrepair Service

    I was racing with an organized amateur cycling team in Kentucky when the head mechanic of our shop sponsor suggested getting me a job there. They said a female presence would be great for business.

    They insisted.

    They were exuberant, supportive, and witty at races and practices. They were the first point-of-contact when any of us needed parts, advice, or a fix. They remembered my name was spelled with a ‘G.’ They recognized my potential, and thought I’d be a good fit.

    Once I was hired, they rarely ever said my name correctly again.

    They nicknamed me “Gina” (hard ‘I’), and regularly addressed me as “Snatch.”

    No can do, mate.

    I quickly requested that they just call me Genna, or ‘G.’ They flinched a little.

    “I was just playing with you,” they said, but obliged anyway. Our rapport seemed to return to normal.

    One day, I went into work with a finely-striped, red, white, and blue shirt. They said “You’re patriotic today.” They would regularly comment on my clothing choices and accessories in a way that was… specific.

    They are paying a lot of attention to me.

    I still have that shirt, and never wear it without remembering this minor interaction.

    Inevitably, their jokes continued. I started to vocalize this pattern to everyone else in the shop. Most of them said “Yeah, they’re like that.”

    Another said “Yeah… they’re like that.” This person and I soon learned that we could communicate through eye-contact alone. I noticed the head mechanic’s behavior would escalate when this person was gone. After this mirror, I asked the owner to meet in confidence, and explained my discomfort with the head mechanic’s behavior. “I’ve already told them myself that I don’t like this kind of “humor,” I said.

    “I’ll talk to them,” they assured me.

    The behavior continued over the days to follow, so I went to the office again.

    “I don’t know what happened to you in your past, but you need to work on not being so sensitive,” the owner said.

    Irrelevant.

    One day, the head mechanic walked from the repair area to the retail store, where I was, with a box labelled with the ‘Spank’ brand-name. They wrote “dat ass” underneath it, and presented it in front of me… and a customer.

    Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, take a moment to chuckle, gag, or whatever else that incites.

    That’s funny on it’s surface, but not in its purpose.

    I immediately walked back into the owner’s office with no more reservation.

    “If there are not going to be consequences for their behavior, then I need to leave,” I announced.

    “Okay,” they said, staring blankly at me.

    That’s… it?

    And so, the evening after I walked out, I made a Facebook post outlining the experience I had behind the scenes while the world went on expressing appreciation for “friendly support and good deals” out the front. The owner called me and left a voicemail telling me to take the post down,

    and the head mechanic sent me a long, incoherent text threatening to kill themselves.

    I call a witness to the stand.

    For weeks, at least, another person in the local bike community sent me various posts through Instagram DM. They trended either thought-provoking, or funny. But, they were only posts, not actual messages, and there were no recurrent themes or patterns between them that I could determine. I ignored them.

    You’re going to have to tell me why you’re here.

    It continued. Sporadically, and quietly. It didn’t increase, nor taper.

    One evening, I finally replied out of sheer lonliness. And without much ado, they began to explain that they had heard about my falling out with that shop. They also told me that this head mechanic had called other shops in the area in the aftermath, warning them all not to hire me. I caused drama.

    And this person just… didn’t buy it.

    They sent me a document they had found. A record.

    A criminal record. One count of domestic assault, another of impersonating a peace officer. They were on parole.

    I got word that this mechanic incurred a divorce, lost custody of their young child, and moved to Alaska in the years to follow.

    The individual who believed me is now one of the most important people in my life.

    Final observation: Combustible material incorrectly labelled as irritant. Please avoid the area.

    _____

    Final Statement of Record: A Quandary

    Previously submitted documentation- If You Can’t Say Something Honest

    For those members of the jury who were not present for prior testimony:

    This individual reached out to me about this blog as a resonant reader. We developed a rapid connection, but through admission delayed until after I began to ask questions, I came to learn this person was perusing divorce but still living with their spouse. Throughout my life I had learned to anticipate “the catch” when finding a job opportunity, love interest, or means of assistance that seemed too good to be true. I noticed a subtle side-stepping of boundaries, omission where words should have provided clarity, and an enthusiasm that did not match the realism of the situation.

    I told them I was no longer willing to participate, and wished them well.

    The silence to follow didn’t sit the way it usually does.

    As I’ve demonstrated, I will walk away. I don’t fight, I don’t defend, and I don’t refute. I let people show me who they are, and collect my evidence over time. If something doesn’t sit right, I don’t respond right away- I just start watching.

    The body knows it first. I trust it, so when I felt it start to shut this person out, I didn’t interrogate it any further.

    But oh, how I interrogated me.

    In these circumstances, the stages of detaching are grief, but also…

    satisfaction. I’ve stood up for myself even at a cost.

    I didn’t get either this time. Actually, I received this soft- featherlike tap on my shoulder that suggested that the cost here might not be just temporary discomfort.

    They didn’t intend to hurt me.

    Stay with me. This isn’t enough.

    But I asked if they would be open to a phone call. They said yes. I asked when. They said as soon as possible.

    During that call, any emphasis on “intent” I made certain to steer back to “impact.” And while we were examining that together, they told me they felt “burned at the stake,” by what I wrote about them, but also,

    “You’re right.”

    Not submissively. Not to please me. It was a realization of effect.

    They proceeded to open up to me, sincerely rather than performatively (the difference here can be heard), about everything they were trying to manage all at once while feeling trapped. Decisions cause ripples. Honesty is not a sterile procedure no matter how hard I have tried to make it one.

    They said “You’re intense, so intense,” but also

    I still want to be close to this.

    Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, most people run from me. They fight, tell me I’m the problem, or disappear, all for using my words to narrate their behavior back to them. They rarely stay long enough to understand that on the other side of the scale is a quieter humanity that just wants to not be lied to anymore.

    But here on the phone was not another person who was trying to hide themselves, but was weighing the cost of exposure in a period of major overwhelm and overlooking the impact of omission entirely.

    I want to allow people to be different from those I have known.

    And so, I walked back. Not with erasure of the problem, but with agency over what I was willing to accept circumstantially. I rendered verdict because I was uncomfortable with things that were absolute red flags, but then I asked me “why?”

    And I asked them, “why?”

    And the fog lifted.

    Protection, Your Honor.

    Final observation: Ongoing.

    But, there’s one more thing.

    There’s someone in the jury who knows something.

    Is it you?

    Will you take the stand?

    Will you look yourself in the eyes?

    And will you lower your shield?

    Or will you raise your sword?

    _____

    I rest my case.

  • If You Can’t Say Something Honest

    I will know.

    I will cut off the elephant’s head

    and mount it to my wall

    there is no tension, or unspoken truth

    left standing in this hall

    The greatest devastation in my life actually isn’t not having parents. It isn’t that I’m rootless and uncertain of my immediate future, consistently. It’s not the constant coming and going of people that is a fairly universal experience, but perhaps a more detrimental one when you don’t meet them with a protective mask.

    It’s that those people are in and out because they expect me to step through a door they won’t walk out of themselves, and won’t tell me. Most would prefer to wrap themselves in their dissonance so securely that they aren’t fully conscious that its harm still comes from what they won’t say. It’s cold outside, and it’s uncomfortable.

    And I find myself a loner in every space because I can’t live that way.

    “Your blog is definitely resonating with me. I appreciate your honesty and transparency as we need more of that these days. Makes me not feel alone.”

    I receive a message like this once or twice per post. I answer these with a full willingness to connect rather than a passive “thank you,” because it matters to me.

    This time, that reply led to a connection with someone that, upon first impression, seemed as willing to let me know them as I am. I’ve experienced it before- you put two people like that in the same arena and the show moves at warp speed. He drove two hours to visit me, and the energy was just as I had hoped it would be.

    All of the week to follow was ceaseless banter and vulnerability. I was wary of that because I had seen this used by a manipulator in my past as a way to get me attached so that I’d be more likely to tolerate the toxic behaviors to come later. But I allow people to be different than those I have known, and leaned in with my eyes open.

    During the course of our conversations, I was clear that my life was messy, and unpredictable. I had a habit of just… having enough and leaving relationships, jobs, states even. And he told me he was in the middle of some legal matters to which I collected enough context and asked- were you married?

    He was. It wasn’t until later that it clicked that he still is. But the context mattered, and I stayed present because part of valuing transparency is allowing for the mess it always reveals. What I didn’t do was lose my discernment.

    Fairly impulsively, he decided to come visit again the next weekend. I was on the phone with him on my drive home from work that Friday when he talked indirectly about how he really needs his own space at home, and so I was forced to ask- wait, do you still live together? The pause on the other side had already answered for him, but he admitted that to me too.

    But only after I had asked. He explained it away and we hung up the phone. I chewed on that for a little while but the softness I had was already dishonored. The lightness in my step was gone, just like that.

    I called him again after he had begun the drive my direction. I said, “Before you get too far from home, I think you should turn around. I’m not comfortable with this.”

    He explained it away again, and kept driving. And in the freeze of wanting to be gracious, but not walked all over, I let him show up. Because don’t I know the complication of being stuck somewhere toxic, fully checked out in all ways except physical. I understood the deep need for somebody safe, and it’s a privilege that because of my writing, people feel safe with me.

    But I was never on board with being someone’s escape when I wanted something sustainable. I am not an emotional crash pad just because I am open. And despite another awesome weekend with a person that matched my emotional fluency, I still found the incongruence between action and word. He spoke respect, but still drove to me despite my asking him to turn around. He didn’t disclose major information about himself despite his admiration for my honesty. He still danced past a couple other boundaries and wrote it off as play. He opted out of uploading a ride we did together on Strava despite saying it was “silly to worry about” being seen with me. Even a joke about “are you going to write about me too?” was a subtle tell.

    And none of that is actually, truly honest. And so, I do the thing I’m so painfully well-practiced at now- I walked away.

    That was yesterday. I’m writing about it because people either need to understand this, or feel understood. It takes me so little time to decide that a potential relationship isn’t built on anything stable even when my emotions haven’t accepted it, and I went from “let’s talk more about this,” to “this isn’t going to work,” inside 45-minutes. It’s that sword-brandishing, automatic pilot that keeps me safe when I haven’t fully digested what’s happening in front of me.

    Today is the sad and angry part. The part where I’m showing my teeth again because another person came to me, and still didn’t come fully as themselves because they thought I might walk away.

    But the kindest thing you can do for someone you feel something for is give them their freedom to make that choice. A mask is still deceptive even if it only frames the eyes. I stand a chance of standing next to you in the middle of your storm if you show me exactly where you are.

    But I can’t, if you won’t.

    Let me.

    _____

    My next post, ‘Projection, Your Honor: Learning to Trust the Part of You that Knows,’ deconstructs the subliminal messaging I learned to read in toxic dynamics in my past. The intuition that something is off in any given situation is a primordial trait we all have- learning to decipher it and respond in real-time is something that gets talked about less. Let’s get into that.